Emotionally Unavailable or Secretly Gay?

Know the type? The guy who can't commit. The guy who's "Emotionally Unavailable." The guy who sends mixed signals by actively pursuing you but then doesn't really seem interested (like other guys would be) by the questions (or lack there of) he's asking you during a conversation. It's not just you; he does it with all girls. He's talks a lot about himself. The guy who would rather hang out with his buddies than you. The guy who avoids arguments and problems and shuts down soon as the moment threatens to become emotionally charged. The guy who breaks up with you after a couple weeks for the most ridiculous reason and pretends like it never happened. Yeah. The guy who never seems to be upset, angry, or depressed over his break ups. The guy who doesn't compliment you or make you feel especially attractive in his presence. The guy who says that you're "dating" but you hardly ever see him because his weekends are already booked with paintball, hunting, and football. The guy who is HOT and then COLD. He isn't interested in going out with you tonight but when you mention "Jeff" will be there he perks up and decides maybe he can go after all. Yeah, those guys. You're strutting your stuff in your lingerie and he doesn't even notice because he's engrossed with polishing his paintball gun, running the cloth up & down the shaft. ;) Seen em? Dated one?

Emotionally unavailable? Most definitely. For awhile I just left it at that, but lately I've been thinking.... is there more to the story? Are these guys in fact, secretly gay?! **Just to be clear, I think being gay is awesome & I totally support gay rights!**

Now, every woman is (I hope) equipped with what's called Gaydar. For those of you who don't know, Gaydar =  The supposed ability to discern whether a person is homosexual. Now I don't know about you but this is how my Gaydar works. When I "scan" a guy, he's either 1 of 3 types: Type 1- Guy makes eye contact and smiles, asks questions and tries to get to know me, laughs at my jokes, focused on me, very obliging, actions are consistent if not predictable = the HEALTHY, STRAIGHT MALE. Type 2- guy makes brief eye contact, head slightly lowered when around me, quick responses, seems slightly scared to be talking to me, gets away from me A.S.A.P. = The MARRIED, STRAIGHT MALE. Type 3- guy makes eye contact & is polite, isn't overly friendly, doesn't ask questions or try to get to know me, listens to what I have to say but isn't especially interested, distracted and attention is focused elsewhere, doesn't seem to notice me or anything I'm doing = the GAY MALE. I've encountered many guys who I can just tell are in the closet gays, even if they're married to a woman, doesn't matter. They're gay and I know it. (Come out of the closet boys, be true to yourself!)  


But every now and then... a new "type" flashes up on the Gaydar. The mysterious TYPE 4 male who show signs of a Type 1 50% of the time and Type 3 the other 50%. That's right doctor, symptoms of straight AND gay! That hot and cold crap. So what gives? I mean, our Gaydar sure isn't flagging them because better believe we wouldn't be dating them in the first place if that were the case! Are they just really shy and lack game or is our Gaydar failing us!? 

So let's run with the idea that the Type 4 male is secretly gay. He would now fall into 1 of 2 sub categories: Part A- Guys who know they are gay but refuse to admit it to anyone. They date girls to hide the fact that they're gay (beards), because it's socially expected of them, etc. That would explain why they pursue you in the beginning and act interested in order to tell people you're his "girlfriend," but it never turns into anything genuine. And then Part B- Guys who are in denial even to them self. They have fantasies about other guys and can't understand why. They try to turn it off because they desperately want to believe they are straight. Type 4 Part B boys are the very confused.

Great example of a Type 4 Part B male is Patrick Warburton's character in the movie Ted! The guy has never had a steady relationship and breaks up with girls after only a few months for superficial reasons. (In the movie he says he broke it off with the last girl because she farted in front of him.) His character seems very confused the entire movie, goes out and gets drunk nightly, and ends up being gay with Ryan Reynolds. And there you have it.


So what's the real story behind the Type 4 male? Is he secretly in love with this best bud since high school? That would explain the 8th grade photo of him and his buddy in their swim trunks labeled "best summer ever" and why he isn't calling you, a super sexy momma, more frequently. Or is he truly straight with a mega guard up? Immediately rejecting any feelings that come up even if they are good feelings (he likes you "too much" and backs off because he's scared of getting hurt.) That would explain why when he gets drunk you see a whole new side to him that likes to compliment you like crazy. They say that your true colors come out when you're drunk, which I agree with. So if he acts into you when he's drunk, it's probably a huge sign that he is in fact straight. Which brings us to the Type 4 Part C Male - The emotionally unavailable straight male who acts secretly gay, but isn't. When will the Type 4 male stop being so hot and cold?! Mixed signals like this are always confusing. Type 4 males speak up or else risk us ladies mislabeling you as gay! Unless, of course, you're secretly into that. ;)

-Cursive L.

The 10 Reasons Why I Stopped Using Plastic Water Bottles!

Are you still buying & drinking from plastic water bottles? Yikes. Good thing you found my blog! I filter regular tap water; it tastes great. If I'm on the go, I use a steel container (not aluminum!!) to drink out of. I will never buy plastic water bottles again & here's the 10 reasons why:

#1: Did you know that about 1/4 of all bottled water is actually TAP water? Dasani and Aquafina both admitted their product is nothing more than filtered TAP water! (You can do that for free at home.)
#2: Plastic water bottles are NOT safer than tap water (Plastic = BPA = Toxic = Cancer.) Advertisements have us brainwashed into thinking bottled water is safer than tap water, more pure, and from the mountains of Spring Water Happy-Land. (It's not.) 1 person from the FDA regulates the entire water bottle industry, aka nothing is really being regulated here.
#3: Water bottle companies (like Nestle, Pepsi, Coke) are taking fresh water from the Earth (for free), contaminating it with plastic, selling it back to us, and getting totally rich. (Who said that water was theirs?)
#4: These water bottle companies are corrupt and only care about power and money. (These guys claim water is "liquid gold" and are capitalizing on it BIG TIME). That pisses me off.
#5: These water bottle companies are barging into places like Maine, Michigan, Pennsylvania, Colorado, (just to name a few) and pumping (stealing) the water, causing lower water levels and throwing off natural ecosystems. (People aren't happy about that.)
#6: The plastic factories are using TONS of oil to make these bottles.
#7: The plastic factories where these billions of bottles come from are posioning the land and the people who live nearby because it is highly toxic.
#8: Americans use (and throw out) approximately 30 million plastic water bottles A DAY! The Earth is being seriously polluted because some of us are so wasteful.
#9: Even the bottles that are being "recycled" aren't actually getting recycled... more like piled up in landfills.
#10: It's a waste of your money! Water should be FREE!


I choose steel water bottles instead! You can purchase them from places like Kleen Kanteen, Reuseit.com, or Whole Foods to name a few. They are the way to go because stainless steel doesn't have those harmful toxins that plastic & aluminum has. I've read that glass is also a good option. Buy a water filtration system and hook it up to your tap. Reverse osmosis and activated alumina systems are great because they help to remove flouride found in tap. (I use Brita filters, but they do not remove flouride.) So there you go! These alternatives are more safe, environmentally friendly, and more affordable!  

So remember, big fat companies will say whatever they need to say to get you to buy their stuff, but don't fall for it! Most people believe everything they see on TV & read in magazines. Most people assume that their government has their best interest in mind. Unfortunately, this isn't the case. (It turns out the government and big companies only have their interests in mind). They've been selling us products that contain harmful toxins in them for years. You didn't think that cancer just "develops randomly," did you? If you put harmful poisons into your body, you'll develop cancer and disease over time. That's just what happens. But hey, don't take my word for it. Do some research yourself & get up to speed!


Check out this awesome video by The Story of Stuff Project that illustrates the truth behind bottled water and the importance of plastic bottle alternatives: 

Also, check out these two fantastic documentaries (that you can watch on Netflix) on bottled water that really spell out what's going on: FLOW and TAPPED. This blogger guy liked it too. Click the link to check out his blog entry/review.

The Lion King - "Oh I Just Can't Wait To Be Queen!"

What is your favorite scene in the Lion King?

I saw the Lion King in 3D this weekend. It was an arm tingly-goosebump experience. I haven't seen this movie since I was a little girl. I went with my bf, brother, & young cousins. Seeing it on the big screen with the music blaring was really incredible & I encourage anyone who's reading this to go out and do the same. (Well, you have until this Thursday to do so.) I felt like a kid again & was tearing up as soon as the movie started! I know some people figured it would be blurry in 3D, however we did not find this to be the case at all! During the raining scenes, it actually looked like it was raining in the theater! (Ok, like cartoon rain, but you know what I mean.) Sharing this great movie from my past with the little ones in my family was awesome too. I forgot how exceptionally well crafted the Lion King really is! The music, by Elton John, is outstanding ... oh it really brought me back to the good old 1990s! Watching the Lion King as an adult is a totally different experience than when I saw it as a kid, too. I get the spiritual message of the movie and the life lessons it teaches, including to respect nature and how we are all connected. I'm not a huge "Disney" cheerleader, but this film sets the bar. As anyone born in the 80's would say, "it's a classic!" If it's been a few years since the last time you've popped this tape in the VCR, I highly recommend getting your hands on a copy and watching it as an adult. You'll have a whole new appreciation for it, I promise. ;)


Mufasa: "Everything you see exists together in a delicate balance. As king, you need to understand that balance and respect all the creatures, from the crawling ant to the leaping antelope. When we die, our bodies become the grass, and the antelope eat the grass. And so we are all connected in the great Circle of Life."

That's what I'm talking about, baby! You know you love it!

xoxo

Taking Pictures of Yourself In the Mirror is _______

What started as a way for self absorbed adults to showcase their supposedly "hawt" bodies online in order to attract attention and get laid, is now a growing epidemic among recently sprouting teens. It seems that every kid online has a picture of themselves, taken by themselves, with their camera phone, in the mirror. Some even have a few "albums" with several photos of pictures they took of themselves making different faces. Cute? No, it's insane. For some reason these kids think it's normal. And that's generation Z (the internet generation) for ya.

Here's my personal theory on how this all originated: Back in the 1990's when the internet was first becoming popular & these kids were just being born, men and women alike realized that if they pile on enough makeup or flex their stomach in the right lighting, they could appear more attractive than usual in a fuzzy, online photo. If they stick socks in their bra and crop half of their face out of the frame, it would be completely artificial, but still pass as "super cute" and they might even score an online date. Woo-hoo! Fast forward a couple years and along come digital cameras and camera phones. Now you can view yourself before you snap the picture and erase the ones where you look totally not cute. If your camera phone doesn't have a screen, you have to look at yourself in a mirror & then snap the pic in order to get something pretty. You don't have to actually be pretty, or know much about anything to get this to work for you. What a great invention!

So the internet is booming and these kids are hitting puberty, so they whip out the web cams and cell phones because they are fascinated with their new "developments." (LOL). All of a sudden, kids are passing for young adults, taking inappropriate pictures, and publicly disgracing themselves. And then Miley Cyrus takes a pic of herself showing her stomach and all goes to hell. It's like these kids are obsessed with doing this. And when you can't think for yourself, you look to others to tell you what's "cool" or "normal." They think that's normal and they also think it makes them look cool. And unfortunately for them, their awkward self discovery years are permanently online for all to see. This generation of kids is proving to me that playing with a cell phone, immediately following the Speak-N-Say, isn't exactly producing independent, well-rounded citizens here. I know I'm being a little harsh, considering they are kids and most kids are immature... but it seems that regular access to the internet at a young age (when your brain is still developing) is making it easier for kids to whore themselves out and choose conformity over individuality. It's like watching a train wreck in slow motion.

If your online profile picture is of you taking a picture of yourself in the mirror, you are more than likely: not creative, a follower, self absorbed, desperate for attention, immature, vain, etc.

Hopefully, they will all grow out of it and prove me wrong! So what do you think? Taking pictures of yourself in the mirror is ____________.

xoxo

Colloidal Silver Cured My Strep Throat (A Natural Antibiotic!)

"Colloidal Silver is a powerful, natural antibiotic, a top quality immune enhancer for good health and is preventative against infections." - www.natrition.com. People have a lot to say about this stuff online, both good and bad, but all I know is that it cured my strep throat right away and it didn't come back.

A month ago I came down with strep throat in the middle of summer! Inflamed tonsils & white spots, ugh! I can't remember the last time I had strep, so I was a little unsure of what to do. I read online that strep is a bacterial infection and needs to be treated, otherwise it will only get worse. Instead of turning to a medical doctor, who I knew would prescribe me a nasty antibiotic (Penicillian), I asked my chiropractor what to do. He suggested Colloidal Silver.

You spray this stuff 4 times a day on the back of your throat 30 sprays each time, hold the liquid under your tongue, and then swallow it down. The very next day I already felt 75% better. By day 2, I was at 100%. This stuff worked wonders!

The best part is, I killed off the strep bacteria without killing off the good bacteria in my body. Everyone's body is equipped with an effective self defense mechanism (your immune system) that is either weak or strong based on your overall health. Even strong immune systems can get caught off guard when a new strand of bacteria or virus comes along, which causes you to get sick. When you take antibiotics from the pharmacy, your body's natural immune system is interrupted. The good bacteria in your body (needed for things like digestion and nutrition absorption) are being killed off! Not to mention, your liver is being damaged in the process. It's like your immune system partied too hard and blacked out. By the time it recovers, it doesn't know what just happened and your body is weaker. The bacteria presents itself again and you get sick.... again. Because when it was supposed to be learning how to fight off this bad bacteria, it was blacked out.

My brother had strep a month before I did and took Penicillian as prescribed by his doctor. The strep throat returned 3 more times before it finally went away. I took Colloidal Silver and I was cured in 2 days. Now my body is stronger and knows how to fight off that particular bacteria.

According to www.naturaltherapypages.com: "Colloidal Silver supports the natural defense system of the body and is powerfully alkaline. It works by acting as a catalyst, disabling the enzyme that single celled bacteria, fungi, and viruses need in order to metabolize oxygen. This suffocates the harmful cell while not harming human enzymes, resulting in the removal of the disease-causing organisms from the body. It is helpful against acne, allergies, arthritis, athlete's foot, boils, burns, candida, cystitis, diabetes, eczema, hay fever, indigestion, parasitic infections, psoriasis, ringworm, warts, and yeast infections." People also take this stuff when they're healthy to give their immune system a boost. Holy crap this stuff is awesome!

You can find Colloidal Silver at health store places like the Better Health Store, which is where I got mine. ;)

xoxo

The Sexiest Musicians - My Top 5

Being a musician is hot. And I don't mean just your average "singer" or "pop star," I mean a real musician, one who writes their own music. A real artist! I love listening to good music.... & I especially love watching a sexy artist perform!

Here's my pick of the 5 sexiest:


#5 Jack White - White Stripes

There's something about Jack White that is unconventionally sexy. He is so talented and writes great music, plus he's from Detroit! Not only that, but he can perform live and still sound great (which is what being a musician is all about.) Jack plays several instruments and his band is known for putting on a great show with only 2 members! That means while Meg is playing the drums, Jack is writing the music, singing, playing the keyboard, slamming on the guitar, working the harmonica, & playing whatever else they use. He makes it look effortless & that's sexy.




#4 Stephan Jenkins - Third Eye Blind

This band has an awesome sound that I absolutely love. Stephan is a sexy rebel who is very opinionated & isn't afraid to speak his mind. He's kind of like, crazy sexy. He probably did too many drugs in his day, he might be gay, and he might look really hit up nowadays, but Stephan writes kick ass songs and has a hot voice. He is sexy without trying.


#3 Mark Hoppus - Blink 182

First of all, Blink 182 is an incredible band that I have loved forever. Mark Hoppus has always been my favorite of the 3. Their songs & music videos showcase their humor and I dig it. If you can make fun of yourself, it shows that you don't really care what others think of you and you're not afraid to be yourself. Similar to Travis & Tom, Mark doesn't take himself too seriously, and that makes him very sexy. He is hysterically funny; it's obvious without knowing him personally. He also has super hot eyes & a tat free bod, which is different in that industry & therefore, yup you guessed it, sexy!


#2 Kurt Cobain - Nirvana

I love Kurt Cobain. Talented, sexy, kind, intelligent, funny, real. He wasn't fooled by the music industry's facade & stayed true to the music. Regardless of the media stories written about his "reckless" lifestyle, he was more productive than most Americans and extremely successful. He loved and respected women. He didn't slut around and flaunt his riches and fame. He stayed extremely loyal to the people who were there from the start. He's sexy because he didn't change himself to fit an image although he was pressured to, daily. A humble, genuinely good guy. ♥


#1 Brandon Boyd - Incubus

This is the type of guy who gets hotter & hotter the more you get to "know" him. It's not just his outer appearance that makes Brandon Boyd sexy, it's seriously everything about him. For being as famous and successful as he his, he carries himself very well and is approachable. I know because I approached him once. He's spiritual, intelligent, kind, humble, creative, and seems like a really down to earth guy! He always has something interesting to say and speaks well, not to mention his voice & talent is phenomenal. So when you combine inner hotness with outer hotness, you end up with superman irresistible! Brandon is my #1 pick for sexiest musician ever, hands down.

Thoughts on TV

It seems like everyone in America watches several hours of TV a day. Most people have TV sets in their bedrooms and watch TV while eating dinner. Some people go to sleep with their TV set on and I think that's insane. Ever stop to think how much control your TV has over you? You might not even realize it, but if you're like most Americans, your TV monopolizes a huge part of your life. Not just by how much time you spend staring at it with your mouth open, but by the ideas it plants in your head. (Ever notice how the TV never asks for YOUR opinion on anything? It's always telling you how it is, where to go, what the buy, what to think. Sounds like a rather unfair, manipulative relationship to me!)

This is an excerpt I pulled from csun.edu: "According to the A.C. Nielsen Co., the average American watches more than 4 hours of TV each day (or 28 hours/week, or 2 months of nonstop TV-watching per year). In a 65-year life, that person will have spent 9 years glued to the tube."

Do you realize what's happening to you when you watch TV? Your brain sort of turns off, and you enter a kind of "sleeping awake" state of mind. This is similar to the state you enter when undergoing hypnosis.

Do you watch commercials on TV? If you answered "yes," ummmmmmm WHY?!?! Seriously, you seriously sit through commercials? Personally, I can't stand them. Even though some are funny, they aren't designed for your entertainment. If you've ever done a little research in marketing you'd discover that commercials are packed full of LIES. They are selling you an image of how they want you to view their product. The models who are "using" the product do not "use" the product in real life. The amazing "anti-aging/reverses wrinkles" cream never works like they suggest or else it'd make the front page of the news. They try and brainwash you with their jingles that get stuck in your head or the colors they use in their advertisement. Companies spend bazillions of dollars on researching how certain colors and sounds affect YOUR brain. The really successful ones are sending messages straight to your subconscious - and you don't even know it's happening!

I admit that every now and then I'll watch a few decent shows that I have on Netflix. I only spend about 1-2 hours watching TV a day total, if that. There are some good, inspiring shows out there and some educational ones as well. The problem is, most people watch crap nonstop instead of doing something productive. I never watch TV if it's nice out & I absolutely do not watch the news or sit through commercials. TV is a distraction, it makes you dumb, it is a time waster. You weren't intended into creation to sit in front of the idiot box. If you are watching several hours of TV a day, you are wasting your life! Go out and create something!

If you want to learn more, visit this fun site: http://www.turnoffyourtv.com/


Books make you smart. Don't be a dummy.


-Cursive L.